1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:00,000 2 00:00:10,510 --> 00:00:12,566 My name is Master Sergeant Christina 3 00:00:12,566 --> 00:00:14,454 Nelson and I'm a reservist out of 4 00:00:14,454 --> 00:00:16,566 Seymour Johnson Air Force Base . I've 5 00:00:16,566 --> 00:00:18,899 been in the military about 20 years now . 6 00:00:19,540 --> 00:00:21,707 I've had a lot of difficult situations 7 00:00:21,707 --> 00:00:24,520 both in and out of the military . I 8 00:00:24,530 --> 00:00:27,549 came from a rough childhood in and out 9 00:00:27,559 --> 00:00:29,892 of foster care with an alcoholic parent . 10 00:00:29,892 --> 00:00:32,319 So I thought I could deal with stress 11 00:00:33,650 --> 00:00:35,706 for more than half of my time in the 12 00:00:35,706 --> 00:00:37,872 military . I was afraid to ask or seek 13 00:00:37,872 --> 00:00:39,983 help . I thought that it would affect 14 00:00:39,990 --> 00:00:42,101 my promotion and people would look at 15 00:00:42,101 --> 00:00:44,799 me differently . So I just kept quiet . 16 00:00:45,400 --> 00:00:47,456 Some of the situations involved were 17 00:00:47,456 --> 00:00:50,330 money , difficulties , divorce , 18 00:00:50,340 --> 00:00:52,840 depression , sexual harassment and 19 00:00:52,849 --> 00:00:56,150 losing my father . There was a 20 00:00:56,159 --> 00:00:58,215 commander's call that I sat in and a 21 00:00:58,215 --> 00:01:00,439 chief spoke about how he had similar 22 00:01:00,450 --> 00:01:03,450 situations that he went through and how 23 00:01:03,459 --> 00:01:05,680 he was using the military's resources 24 00:01:05,690 --> 00:01:08,529 for help and how he had lost a few 25 00:01:08,540 --> 00:01:12,099 friends through suicide . At that 26 00:01:12,110 --> 00:01:14,332 point , I knew I wasn't the only one in 27 00:01:14,332 --> 00:01:16,949 the audience that had trauma . 28 00:01:18,120 --> 00:01:21,029 So I decided to then talk to a chaplain 29 00:01:21,040 --> 00:01:24,400 and he listened , everyone's breaking 30 00:01:24,410 --> 00:01:28,150 point is different . And when 31 00:01:28,160 --> 00:01:30,699 you ask for help and others know that 32 00:01:30,709 --> 00:01:33,370 you have , you get more respect and you 33 00:01:33,379 --> 00:01:37,370 become a better leader . You can be the 34 00:01:37,379 --> 00:01:39,601 difference in someone's life as someone 35 00:01:39,601 --> 00:01:39,699 was for me .